Martha Kovacs

After 40 years of marriage, Martha found herself alone when her beloved husband Bill passed away in March 2020. A pharmacist who had dedicated her career to helping others, Martha’s life had always been filled with purpose and service. Bill, a teacher, coach, and fitness trainer, was her partner in both life and faith. Their home was full of laughter and activity, especially through Bill’s work with young athletes. 

After Bill’s passing, Martha found herself grieving in isolation during the Covid lockdown, with her family and friends far away. Months later, she moved back to East Tennessee to be with family and friends. Through her faith and surrender to God’s love, she found healing and the courage to open her heart again. Just when she least expected it, a friend introduced her to Tom, a retired contractor who had also cared for his late wife until her death from cancer. Despite her initial reluctance, something clicked between them. Their love story moved quickly. Within months of meeting, Tom gave Martha a diamond ring on Christmas and they were married in March. Now she’s experiencing more joy than she ever knew was possible. 

Martha’s journey is a powerful reminder that no matter the years behind us, God can bring love and joy back into our lives  in the most unexpected and beautiful ways.

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Martha Kovacs

After Bill passed in 2020, the Covid lockdown was in full force. All of my family and friends were in the Morristown/Jefferson City area and could not be with me during those first few months of grief. My time was spent writing, binge watching Hallmark movies, as well as watching the Lone Ranger over and over again. My excitement was waiting for Walmart to deliver my groceries or taking my yorkie, Fenway, on a walk around the apartment complex.

After I moved back home in October 2020, I connected with several women at church to form a “widows” group. There were several new widows who had no one to relate to or talk with about their grief. We loved and hugged our way to healing.

I also was involved in a women’s bible study in Rutledge. The teaching was about our identity. My identity had been as Dr Martha, pharmacist, or as Mrs Bill Bryant, never as Martha,  a child of the Most High God.

On March 1, 2021, I was sitting in the bible study. It was the one year anniversary of Bill’s death. I was staring out the window as the other women talked.   A Voice inside me, surely the Holy Spirit,  said gently, “Let me woo you. Allow Me to be your Husband for this time. Lean into Me.” Tears ran like a river as I surrendered to His loving words.

In the next few weeks I enjoyed His Presence. My time of grief had ended and I began living again.  My friend, Linda, said she knew a man named Tom that I needed to meet. Famous last words from my mouth, “the last thing I need in my life is a man. 40 years with Bill was enough for me.” A few weeks later, I met Tom.

Something clicked. I was 72 and Tom was 78. We had both cared for our spouses during their illnesses and we were ready to live again.  Our first “date” was in October 2021. That Voice inside me said “I’m stepping back. It’s time for Tom to woo you.”

He proposed December 2021. Our wedding was in March 2022. We celebrated our 3rd anniversary this past March. Many stories of God’s sense of humor and His love for us. He has truly restored what the enemy had stolen from both of us.

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DAWN

PRUSZKOWSKI

Dawn Pruszkowski is a podcaster, author, conference speaker, choreographer, dancer, director, and an educator with a passion for God and a love for people.

​She hosts another podcast, Love Unexpected, where she details her own Unexpected Love Story over multiple seasons. Check it out by clicking the link below.

Dawn has founded several dance ministries, a performing arts studio, dance company, as well as choreographed and directed various dance and musical productions, produced ten instructional dance videos, and has taught, danced, and ministered throughout the USA and internationally.

Her instructional dance videos and book Worship Steps, a practical guide for the worship artist can be found on Amazon as well as her website www.worshipsteps.com.

Dawn currently lives in the Las Vegas area with her husband and two youngest children.

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SHOW NOTES & SUMMARY

• [00:00:05] “A Christmas proposal with a dime”
Martha opens with a sweet flash-forward: after two months of dating, Tom spontaneously proposes at Christmas using a dime, and they sit hand-in-hand like “an old lady and old man,” sure it’ll be alright.

• [00:01:00] “After loss, a new beginning”
Dawn frames the episode: after 40 years of marriage and Bill’s passing in 2020, Martha finds healing through her church family in East Tennessee—and love finds her there.

• [00:02:15] “Pharmacy as ministry, marriage as real life”
Martha reflects on 50 years as a pharmacist (a calling, not just a job) and a marriage marked by opposing schedules, learning that love isn’t a fairytale but something you work through.

• [00:04:50] “Sepsis, clarity, and two sacred months”
A December 2019 ER visit reveals Bill’s sepsis and advancing dementia; after he rallies, the couple shares honest conversations, repentance, and frequent “I love yous” before he passes.

• [00:07:05] “Goodbye—and then lockdown”
Bill dies on March 1, 2020; within a week COVID lockdown begins. Martha grieves alone at home with her dog, looping Hallmark and Lone Ranger for months.

• [00:09:10] “Home to Morristown: hugs and healing”
Returning to her roots, she “hugged till the gumption came out,” started a Monday Bible study and a widows’ circle where grief, honesty, and the Holy Spirit brought deep healing.

• [00:11:30] “Identity in Christ & ‘Let Me woo you’”
A multi-denominational study helps her reclaim identity; on March 1, 2021, she senses God say, “Let Me be your husband—lean in and trust,” marking the end of formal grieving.

• [00:13:20] “Released to be wooed by another”
Later, she senses permission for “someone else to woo” her and admits a simple longing: a hand to hold, sitting close on the couch, and the comfort of everyday affection.

• [00:14:50] “Enter Tom: the man by the pole”
‘Mama Linda’ wants to introduce them; Martha resists at first, then notices Tom—faithful, steady, “the white-haired guy leaning against the pole” at church.

• [00:16:40] “The text heard ’round the intercessors”
After Thanksgiving with family, Martha accidentally gushes about Tom to the intercessory group (including Tom). She jokes he’s “finer than peanut butter”; he replies, “Can we sit together at church now?”

• [00:18:20] “Tom’s story: loss, reset, and service”
A former Miami contractor who lost everything in 2008, Tom later loses his wife of 46 years to cancer; in Tennessee he serves quietly with carpentry and electrical work—and brings a big family.

• [00:22:50] “‘Do you like to cuddle?’—an answered prayer”
On their second date, Tom’s question makes Martha cry—it matches her prayer for simple, human closeness. Courtship moves quickly: Thanksgiving together, a Christmas dime proposal, wedding set for March 2022.

• [00:26:40] “Ruth & Naomi wedding, quiet Gatlinburg rest”
Her “Naomi” (Mama Linda) walks her down the aisle to her “Boaz,” with worship and banners; a peaceful Gatlinburg getaway follows, then moving into Tom’s country home that feels like a daily vacation.

• [00:30:50] “New love without disloyalty—communication & grace”
Martha honors Bill’s humor while embracing Tom’s gentle steadiness; they permit each other to share past stories and learn clear, kind communication for the years ahead.

• [00:33:40] “Advice for widows: trust Psalm 139 & choose well”
God knows your days; don’t fear a new chapter. If you remarry, choose someone committed to God—don’t marry to change them—hold on to each other and live your best today.

Martha Kovacs: [00:00:00] Got to know him. On October, we had dinner with our families and Thanksgiving and, uh, Christmas. He asked the, uh, we were sitting table at the house one night and he goes, do you want to be married? I said. Me tip, cracking my jokes open, saying, yeah. And so he runs back into the room, back bedroom and brings out a dime and says, will you marry me?

And, and it was just so precious. He sat there, pat, we, he old lady in the old man sitting there patting each other’s hands going, it’d be all right. So, so there he proposed me to me at Christmas. So two months dating.

Dawn Pruszkowski: Love stories fill us with joy and inspire hope for the future. And a true life romance can remind us that sometimes just one spark is all it takes to change everything.[00:01:00]

After losing her husband of 40 years, Martha never imagined finding love again, but love found her. Welcome to Unexpected Love Stories. I’m your host, Don Kowski. Today we’re joined by someone very dear to me, Martha Kovac. She’s a retired pharmacist from east Tennessee, and after 40 years of marriage to her late husband, bill, she suddenly had to navigate a whole new life after he passed in 2020.

During the COVID pandemic, Martha chose to find healing and a new beginning through her church family, and. That’s where Martha’s unexpected love story began. Welcome, Martha. How you doing?

Martha Kovacs: Doing very well. Thank you.

Dawn Pruszkowski: Yay. Okay. So let’s talk a little bit about your life before you met Tom. Tell us, uh, what was going on.

Martha Kovacs: Okay. Uh, I was a, I had been a pharmacist for 50 [00:02:00] years here in the East Tennessee area, floating around. And, uh, for me, pharmacy was a ministry and not just a job. So I really enjoyed my 50 years, but it was tiring. And as much as I loved my job, it worked against my dear husband and I because I worked all the time and he was, and Bill was a coach in various situations, high school, grade school, and finally college level.

And he officiated. I was never home because of working, and Bill was never home because of all of his responsibilities with coaching and fitness, and so we had 40 years. That were u ups and downs. And I guess I, that’s when, I guess I, somebody remembered to tell me that this isn’t a perfect life, that it’s not a fairytale line, that there’re fairytale land, that there are things you just have to learn to deal with.

And, uh, and it’s [00:03:00] part of life. ’cause I thought marriage is perfect and, uh, I didn’t see time. I, I guess it shows you how shallow I was with watching a lot of my friends and family, because I didn’t know all the problems they were having. So, but I just, I loved my profession and I loved being with Bill. And, uh, we moved around a lot and our last few years were in, in a small town that, uh, bill had to retire because of illness.

So his last two or three years was a struggle with arthritis and just severe pain and. And not being able to, and frustrating for me not being able to do anything about it. So toward the end of our marriage, he sort of ended up staying in the bedroom a lot, and I stay in the living room. And that, that was the way our marriage ended in a ways, because we, I got so caught up in my work and he got so caught up in just trying to stay alive that we didn’t talk a lot and then, and, [00:04:00] but it was, it was good.

I, he taught me how to laugh. He, he gave me a precious family because I gained three sisters who were absolutely wonderful and two of them still alive, who, who are still my sisters and I love them so much, and so I, I got more than just Bill when I married him. I got such a wonderful family. So anyway, in that last year or two bill’s Bill had been.

Diagnosed with rheumatoid arthritis, and he was beginning to cripple up and, and, and just in that same time, he started developing dementia. So I slowly started losing the bill that I knew. And it was, it was a rough thing, but it was, I never thought I’d have a sovereign act and someone passing away. But December 17th, 2019, I had to take.

I took Bill to the emergency room and uh, he was [00:05:00] talking out of his head and he was so sick and ends up he had sepsis and they also said the sepsis had pretty much was beginning to destroy his mind and everything else. So in that time though, he came to, and I was given a chance to have two wonderful months with him, that on January 1st I took him home because when he came to, the doctors told me that.

Bill’s not gonna last much longer. You need to accept the fact that, that you, you’re getting ready to lose him, whether it be weeks, months, or whatever, but it will probably be a short time. So we came home together, but in that sovereign time, God came in and we were able to repent for all the things we’d done to each other through the years, you know, of the injuries that we caused each other and frustrations of.

And God was so precious in coming in and for us to be able [00:06:00] first time after 40 years, finally talk honestly with each other about where we had been and what was going to happen. And, uh, it, it was that thing when he came to, he looked at me and his nickname for me was Trumpy. And he looked at me and he said, Trumpy, I really did it at this time.

Didn’t I said. Yeah, bill you did? And he said, I’m not going to live. And I said, only. I said, in trusting in God. And, and if you’re, if you want to fight, I said, you have a possibility, but it’s your choice. If you want to go on, it’s okay. And so he chose to, uh, just allow God come in and take him home. But it was such a precious, precious time that we had together to cry together.

To forgive each other that my last week with him was that continually Trumpy, I love you. And it was so nice to hear that. It was so nice to hear that because at times I used to be so mad at him ’cause I didn’t hear it enough. And so he is [00:07:00] like, his last week with me was just full of, of love and, and appreciation for me sticking it out with him, I guess.

So he passed away March 1st, 2020. And that was about the week before COVID lockdown started. So we got, I said, the last person I saw, or the last physical touch I had from anyone after Bill passed was the mortician as he came to pick up Bill’s body at the apartment. And we were all locked in, couldn’t go anywhere.

And I had a fear of all the rules of the COVID rules. So I didn’t, I didn’t get out. So the dog and I sat in that apartment quite a bit and we. Watched a lot of Lone Ranger and ho Hallmark movies. It was might as well. I had just on repeat. Repeat because I wanted something shallow and something where I didn’t have to think and so I was.

I pretty much locked into the apartment [00:08:00] with, with our dog until September. So from March till September, I saw no one, I, I had, didn’t have anyone there when Phil passed away. And I, so you know that thing when you have somebody to hold you just to let you cry. And I, I didn’t have that touch and so I, I don’t see how people do it.

I mean, I survived it, but when, when September came, I chose. It’s a retire home to Morristown, where Bill and I had originally met and it had been our, it had been our closest friends through all the years. And it, it was, it was just neat to come in and be able to come among people who knew me back when, ’cause Bill and I moved around a lot and we lost connection, but the connection was still there.

And so to be able to move back into town and to roll up in a ball. And lean into one of my sisters and, and them say it’s gonna be all right. That was, uh, what I really loved about getting home because [00:09:00] after not touching anyone for eight months, I started hugging till I squeezed the gumption out of everyone.

And, and I told ’em, if you, if you expect me to quit hugging, uh, forget it. And if you expect me to ask permission, forget it. I said, I’m gonna latch on to you. Because it feel feels so good to hold onto people and, and to know that you’re not alone. So that was, that was a neat part. But what the precious part was, it was, I never really thought about being an a widow and I didn’t think about all those little wounds that we carry inside.

Especially when you lose your mate and some friends. And I started a, a prayer group over in Rutledge, and we’d get together on Mondays and have a bible study. And then on Sundays, I mean, there was several women widows at the church who we decided to get together. Some had never grieved the loss of their husbands, and we got together and we leaned into each other and we cried [00:10:00] together and talked together about our loss and allowed our healing to come in.

I said, it’s sort of like that, you know, when Bill passed, I’d go to the closet and put a shirt, and you stick your nose in that shirt and you breathe deep. And he’d just smell that delicious smell and, uh, and, and to make you feel that, that you really feel that he’s present with you and guaranteed, I felt like I heard him call him my name several times, and so mm-hmm.

All of things I had not talked to anyone about and our little group got together. And I, I just received so much healing in that, in that widows group that we just grieved. And when it was time to, to break up, we broke up and we all, we were, all we, we were filled with laughter. We were filled with a joy that no one else could give us because God came in and did such a.

[00:11:00] His, the Holy Spirit was so present with us in those meetings and we, that we were able to share our deepest hurts and, uh, just learned to appreciate the next moment that we’d be living. Yeah. And uh, and my Monday Bible study, we got together and we were women of just different, different denominations. I like that.

That we wanted, we were seeking, wanting to know our identity in Christ and we, uh. We got into a Graham Cook Bible study and it was just cha life changing and, and game changing things and, uh, where things really started for me. So Bill died March 1st, 2020. On March 1st, 2021. I was, uh, sitting in that Bible study group and I was looking out the window and, uh.

I heard, I had just heard [00:12:00] the Holy Spirit say, what, what would you ask of me? And, uh, I said, I’m, I’m alone. What do I do? And God said, let me come in. Let me woo you. Let me be the husband that you need now let me take care of you. Lean in and, and trust. And I said, okay. So that was March, 2021. And he, because he said, you’re, your year of grieving is over.

You need to learn how to live again, and especially live as a retired person. And where I’ve never had, never had the time. Uh, I worked all the time and never took time for myself. We didn’t do vacations. We didn’t, we didn’t do anything. I felt guilty if I wasn’t working somewhat somewhere. So my learning how to retire and have peace was, was a different thing for me.

And, uh, so anyway, I. I accepted his, I accepted the Lord’s [00:13:00] request that he, I allowed him to come in and be everything that I needed, and he was more than enough that, uh, at night when you’d be lonely, he, the Holy Spirit just slip in and just the peace would ooze because of, uh, of his faithfulness to us and letting him know I wasn’t alone.

So I went through those months of the land de woo, and toward the end. Of the year. I was sitting in the Bible study again that day, and, and I, and I truly heard him say, uh, is said, my time’s up with you wooing. You said, I’m i’ll, I’ll allow you, allow someone else to woo you. Because what I had said was, God, you know, I love you taking care of me and I love your presence, but man, I just desire a physical touch.

I want someone to hold my hand when I’m crossing the street. I wanna, I wanna sit on the couch cuddled up next to one. [00:14:00] Watching as mom and dad used to say, well watch watching Lawrence Wilk. I just wanna be able, we can just sit together, lean in together, and, uh. Sing those dumb songs together, but just enjoy each other.

Dawn Pruszkowski: Mm-hmm.

Martha Kovacs: And uh, so in came Tom, because I originally, when I’d come back, our friend Linda, we call her mama, Linda, came up to me and said, I’ve got somebody I want you to meet. And I said, not a man. And she said, yeah. And I said, after 40 years of marriage, the last thing I want in my life is a man. And. And I asked.

So I, but I started watching him at church. I’d sit on one side of the church and watch him over, and the, he was always the whitehead guy leaning against the pole. That was, if you never figured out, wanted to point out who Tom was, he’s the man leaning against the pole over there. But, uh, anyway, to go back in that time that God said to you, it’s time for someone [00:15:00] else to will you.

I had just said, I just need, I just need to be cuddled. And, and I held onto that and God heard me because, uh mm-hmm. We sort of slipped in and finally Tom and I went out one night, we went to home group meeting and, and we were sitting together, not really sitting together, but sitting together. And of course it, everybody just sort of looked at us and said, Hmm, something’s going on there.

And it was our first time together. But, uh, he asked me, he asked me out. And so I cooked for him to impress him. That first night I cooked for him and impressed him with my good cooking. I never cooked for Bill because we didn’t have time. So I was learning to cook again. So, and then the second, the second time we went out, I took him to my brother’s for Thanksgiving.

Dawn Pruszkowski: Mm-hmm. And,

Martha Kovacs: and that after I got home that night, I, and we had had fun together with, with. Wayne and his [00:16:00] family. I got home and I sat down with my little phone and I text Wayne. I go and he’s just saying, I loves Thanksgiving, and it was a wonderful time. And how did you like Tom and I and I made a comment about I, I said something you, I said, he’s real cool guy, except for he is a laughter.

I said, you’ll have to get used to that laugh. But anyway, I made a comment about how nice he was. Trouble is what I do. I didn’t sign it. I didn’t send it to Wayne. I accidentally sent it to our intercessory group. Oh no. Of which Tom was part. And so I get this, I get this message real quick from Linda saying, I think you hit the wrong address, and I gotta laughing.

Because Tom and I had let not let anyone know that we were going out or anything. And so I sent Tom a note and I said, well, I guess you’ve read what I wrote about you, but I said, [00:17:00] you need to know you’re finer than peanut butter. I said, yeah. I said, just really enjoy you so much. And he said, well, okay, since since the cat’s out of the bag, can we sit together at church now?

And it was so cute because we were trying to be so sly. And, uh, and since we let all the intercessors in church know that we were going out, there was a good gossip line going after that. But it was just, it was a thing of, uh, we were that being able to stand with him and, and enjoy him and, and get involved in church together was so much fun.

Dawn Pruszkowski: Can I ask you a question? Yes. Okay. So, um, it was just that March that God said, let me be your husband. Correct?

Martha Kovacs: Just that March was that?

Dawn Pruszkowski: Yeah. So how long then [00:18:00] until he said, I’m pulling back and because I’m gonna let someone else Woo. You

Martha Kovacs: march to October.

Dawn Pruszkowski: Okay, so October. Alright. And then you met Tom. Can you tell me just a little bit about Tom and his background?

Tom, Tom White

Martha Kovacs: came from, he and Sue. He was married 46 years and has, and has three children, two daughters and a son. And I’m getting, finally, after three years, I’m finally getting to meet the son this next week. But, uh, so anyway, he was a. He was a contractor down in Miami and built residential and business contracting.

And in 2008 when there was the real estate bust that the financial drop of real estate, he lost everything. So he and his wife moved up here to Tennessee and after 46 years of marriage, Sue uh, passed [00:19:00] away with throat cancer. And so they had been together four, six years. His time had been spent in those last years being right next to Sue, the entire taking care of hi him, the way I had taken care of Bill.

And so he’s got three wonderful children and we, I went, I went from having no children of my own to having three grown children and 10 grandkids. So it was, went from nothing to something really fast and, and he was. He was, uh, just one of those guys that who was always at church. You didn’t hear him. I mean, he wasn’t, he was, he was just consistently there and, and faithful to, to the body.

And he’s the type, he’s has that heart. He’ll do anything for everybody though he is lost his business. And there he said he was just too old to start all over again with what he had been doing. So here in the pot Pine in Morristown, he, he does. He does [00:20:00] electrical work and carpentry and stuff for people.

He like usually ends up being the people at church ’cause he loves doing it. And, uh, so we, uh, we uh, he spends his time now just doing what he’s always loved, just working with his hands and he’s good at it and it’s so, I’m so proud of him. But. He allows me to just after all these years, I get to sit back and enjoy just sitting back and snuggling with the dogs for a while and not feeling guilty for not doing something some days.

But he, uh, that’s nice. So was he

Dawn Pruszkowski: since, since he was a widow or was he looking for somebody?

Martha Kovacs: Yes, he said he’s, let’s see, so, uh, Sue’s probably died about two years before Bill. And he said, you know, he said he had been praying for a wife for two years and that, and I, and me not praying for anyone, I’m just saying, leave me alone.

But he, uh, [00:21:00] so anyway, it was, it, it was neat that, uh, that God answered his prayer. The, so same way, uh, he, it was more like God reaffirmed this, that we were both faithful to our mates and so he gave us each other as a gift. We were sort of a, a reward to each other for being faithful to our first, to our first mates, and that that is just so grateful.

He gave us everything we need, gave us, I mean, the sort of had the same personalities, him Miami and the East Tennessee. But that’s I think, our biggest adjustment. The cultural differences, uh, ’cause of southerner people who, that we say, bless your heart and Miami will just sort of kick you in the butt when you need kicking.

So, uh, there’s that difference.

Dawn Pruszkowski: So, well, I know that my mom, um, has told, has told me that, uh, when, [00:22:00] uh, she remembers Tom. Just like, who is that woman? I need to, I need to meet that beautiful woman over there. That, that he was quite smitten. Uh, the moment he first saw you. Yeah.

Martha Kovacs: He wasn’t too sure because I, when I came to church, I don’t, I, I wouldn’t sit in one place.

I moved around all the time. I was playing catch up on Sunday. But people hadn’t seen in years. So he said he never knew where to find me in church. And so it was more like, who is this lady who can’t sit down? But it, it was Oh, neat. Oh. But anyway, talking about, I told God that, you know, I just, I wanna, just wanna cuddle.

I just, just need to be held. So the second date that, uh, that we had, he was giving me a oh goodbye. And he said. Do you like to cuddle? And I started crying and because it was, it was like God’s confirmation [00:23:00] that my, my request of God was, God, I just need, I just need to cuddle. I just, I need human contact.

And that was what Tom had been praying for as well, just. You get tired of being alone. Mm-hmm. But, but him, but him saying, but I, me laughing at him going and started crying and he looks at me and I said, you know, this is an answer to prayer. So, you know, second date we knew, we knew that we’d be together.

So since it was short, and like I say in our age here, I was 71 and him six years older. And, and we got sent, uh, at this age we don’t sit around and have a long courtship. So after, uh, got to know him on October, we had dinner with our families and Thanksgiving and, uh, Christmas he asked the, uh, we were sitting table at the house one night and he goes, do you want to be married?

I said, me to [00:24:00] cracking my jokes open, saying yeah. And so he runs back into the room, back bedroom and brings out a dime and says, will you marry me? And, and it was just so precious. He sat there, pat, we, you, the old lady and the old man sitting there patting each other’s hands going, he’d be all right. So, so there he proposed me to me Christmas.

So two months dating. So we were hanging out and. The thing about you when you realize that when you first get married, you’re in life and love comes with being together and learning to live together. Mm-hmm. So, so we knew we had a really good chance to have a good life and so we set our wedding date for March of, of 2022.

So altogether I’d only known him five months when the day we got married and Wow. And I feel that was so neat and he’s, he’s been such a blessing since then. [00:25:00]

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Martha Kovacs: It was a, it was really neat. I had, uh, moved out of my apartment, out of a apartment complex in Knoxville and we moved our stuff. So I was staying, I was staying up and with. Allen and Lisa Welch in their house at night. Just, I was spending my time up there until the wedding, and which was just down the hill from Tom.

So, so it was nice to have him close by. And the, uh, you know, it was just, the thing about what I did, our wedding was the story of Ruth had hit me so much and, you know, Ruth being the widow and, and, and Naomi having. [00:27:00] Telling her, instructing Ruth how to go and present herself to Boaz and, and like that, and Linda, mama Linda was the one who introduced us and got us together.

So on our wedding day, I asked her to walk me down the aisle. I said, I just really felt like my Naomi needed to walk me down to present me to my bow eyes because it was such a precious, such a precious time. And we, uh, we worshiped, we had. We did worshiping flags and for, especially for some people who had never seen banners in a church or, or just opening up with a way maker.

And so it was, it was nice to be able to have worship before the wedding. And of course, Jimmy Price did such a precious, I said, Jim. He was in both my weddings. He was, he sang in my first wedding and gave me a vows in the second. So he, big part of my life on that. [00:28:00]

Dawn Pruszkowski: Mm.

Martha Kovacs: The but the wedding was neat and we went, after the wedding, we, uh, went over to Gatlinburg, the typical place to go around here, but found us in an old hotel that I can remember years ago that wasn’t a big thing, but had the stream and the fire.

And just to where you could just sit, sit back and cook and, and enjoy just nature and mm-hmm. And that was so, just so pleasant. And to come back there and to move in. Tom had, were in the house that Tom and Sue had been in, and it was neat to be able to come in, move in with Tom. And we were in the middle of the country and we’ve got cows around us and a wildlife going.

And Bill and I always had apartments or an old house. I mean, when you were with us years ago, we were always in a subdivision or of an apartment. So it was so nice to come out here and, and [00:29:00] just see nature and, and enjoy the peace. Um, um, just to, I don’t need vacations. I feel like I’m on a vacation every day with this.

Dawn Pruszkowski: Hmm. I love that, so, okay. And, and, and Martha said, some said that a little throat that I lived with them when I moved to Tennessee from San Diego. Um, I lived with Bill and Martha while I was going to college out there. So Martha became, and Bill became kind of like a second. Mom and dad for me, or at least big sister, big brother.

Yeah. More like it.

Um, and so, so, so precious to me. Um, and friends, I just really want to invite you right now to see some of, uh, the photos of Martha through the jour, this journey and photos of Martha and Tom’s wedding, as well as other [00:30:00] special moments. On our website, the link to our episode is just in the show notes below.

Um, so let’s go. So you both have experienced the loss of a spouse. Um, how does, how did that relationship with Tom, um, I know it’s brought healing and restoration for both of you, but how did you, um, find like. He’s not Bill, how’d you find, like, relating to someone new? Um, how did you navigate that?

Martha Kovacs: It’s, it’s still an adjustment, but I think what it is, realizing that we’re all so unique mm-hmm.

And realizing that it’s okay to remarry after your, after your spouse dies, and that you’re not being disloyal. I’m not being disloyal to Bill Anna. My thing is the learning bill had such a unique sense of humor and he was laughing all the time [00:31:00] and creating havoc all the time with whoever he was with.

And he was the type of person who would, as he was substitute teaching, he’d take the kids down the hall in a conga line dance and to go to the cafeteria. So it, it, that was that type of, so getting used to Bill’s sense of humor and Tom, who just. Is just so sweet and so lovable, and the things he’ll say, will, I’m finally, after three years of marriage, the first two were, the honeymoon’s still on, would never correct each other about what we say and this and this year we’re learning to say, should you have said that.

So I think that’s one of the biggest adjustments is knowing that we’re all different and yet life can be good either way. I can. Because we can still enjoy each other’s stories about our, our husbands and wives and it not interfere with where we are today with each other. And that, I think that’s the good part.

’cause I’m, I’m, we give each other [00:32:00] permission to tell the funny stories and, uh, and the dumb things we used to do, and even sometimes share some of the painful times with each other. And that, that’s what I like is that. And it’s okay to be corrected, and I’m not, I’m not too good on getting corrected. It’s sort of like the old job.

Can you take criticism? I go, oh yeah. And then somebody says something to me, criticize me and I’m hurt. So it’s that learning to uh, to be able to talk to each other, clear clearly and honestly, and being open to honest and willing to work together and to love together and just really enjoy. So Tom says we’re gonna have 34 years together.

Um, well God say about 120 years wasn’t that, he said he could get us up to 120 years. Well, that 34 years be up to 120. But it was just that. The biggest adjustment though, is just learning to be [00:33:00] clear in my communication. Anna.

Dawn Pruszkowski: Love that. Okay. Before we go, do you have any advice, uh, that you’d like to give?

To share with anyone who’s maybe hesitant to embrace a new chapter after they’ve lost somebody? Yeah,

Martha Kovacs: I think I, you know, I, I go to Psalms 1 39 and he talks about, you know, God knew us, of course me, I gotta cry. God knew us before we were born. He knows us now and he knows what he has ahead for us. And, uh, I think what you do if you find a, a decent mate, someone.

That, uh, someone that just sort of hits those heartstrings. Don’t be afraid that, uh, you know, God will honor you if you choose to marry him or if he doesn’t, as long as you’re committed. But the biggest thing is find a mate who is committed [00:34:00] to, committed to God. Uh, don’t. Don’t go into marriage thinking you can change someone.

Uh, Tom and I would be having a rough time if we tried to change each other, but, uh, God will, God has it planned out for you and he has so much good and every day. It’s just a different surprise with me about Tom that, uh. Then I still go through those days of three years together and there’s, and they’re, I say still am happy.

I mean, we we’re not hitting each other, but it just to enjoy each other, enjoy life and do that. And today, what it’s called a day. Live your best and, and don’t, don’t just hold on to each other and don’t let go

Dawn Pruszkowski: no matter where you are in life. It’s never too late for love and new beginnings. God’s always going to write a new chapter [00:35:00] for your life.

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Again, just click the website link in the show notes below. It’s gonna take you right to Martha’s episode, and I hope that your heart feels lighter, inspired, and full of hope [00:36:00] after hearing the story. You know, the best love stories are the ones that we never saw coming, so keep your heart open because love truly is waiting for you.

We’ll see you next time. Bye.

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